Hello, I was with my girlfriend for about 3 years. We were deeply in love. Shortly after getting together I lost my job and I allowed depression to consume me. I didn't have a job for the remainder of the relationship. I was always angry and never wanted to do anything. I woke up one day and found a letter telling me basically to get out, she took the dogs and went to her mothers. She had kicked me out before so I was reluctant to really move out. She over reacted to every situation. She wouldn't have more than a 20 or 30 min talk with me on the phone. I admit that I was very angry and didn't handle the situation the best. I agreed to the break up but I was all over the place and did say that I wanted to be with her. In the process of moving out she came back and we did manage to have a great talk. She said she wanted to keep me in her life, but I flipped out and said that I never wanted to be her friend. I was so wrong. Its been about a month and a week since I moved out. I made no contact with her for about a month. During the month she kept posting pictures of her having fun and running around with friends (Facebook). Meanwhile I worked on myself to a great degree. I have lost a lot of weight and started eating so much better. Since I have been getting healthy I have lost the depression I have started to see all my errors and realize now that my actions have truly hurt her and the situation. I have since realized how amazing and special she was to me. So last week I attempted to call her just to say I was sorry for how I behaved and that the break up was the best thing for both of us, But she didn't answer. During this month I found a job and have started to enjoy life as much as possible. Yesterday I planned an amazing day for myself and posted a bunch of pictures and comments. When I got on today I noticed she deleted me. None of her friends or her mother deleted me and she kept all my friends and family on hers. I know that she is upset with me, and I wish I could take the pain away so that I can start the long road to mending this relationship. I have read a lot of books on the subject and feel as though I am fairly competent about women and relationships. Is there anyway I can help her to not be so angry with me and to start giving me opportunities to hang out so that I can show her how different I really am. She thinks I am something I am not. I miss her and the dogs and her family. Thank you
Ryan, Thank you very much. I have already written this letter. I was going to mail it tomorrow. Within the letter I describe the some of the changes and even say that I do no want to salvage the relationship but want to have her in my life a a friend. Is this a good idea? Once again Thank you!
My intent is to use that as a stepping stone. Like I said in anger I have never wanted to be her friend I just didn't say that I have always wanted her to be my wife. I can't express to you how much you have helped me. I am going to bookmark this website and if in the future if I need a little guidance I will be coming to you.
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