Hi, I believe that you are right in having the feelings that you do, and it seems as though you are looking for some validation of them. Does this sound right?
i dont know if this chat is working
May I ask if you have a question?
I want somebody to talk to me about what i wrote
i don't have a direct question
It sounds as though those 'small' differences were really big ones...
yes... people are killing each other over them across the world lol
so calling them small is just immature behavior
It also seems that he was 'small' minded...
what do u mean by that?
Yes, especially when it comes to how a woman views raising her own children in the belief and traditions that she was raised and is accustomed to.
i mean i m open to reconsidering my beliefs and seeing if there could be a middle ground
but i felt disrespected when he kept putting me down that this difference is small and i m not accepting of differences, close-minded
What do you mean by "middle" ground? Does that mean accepting his belief instead of your own?
like a compromise. I was willing to look into that, if it could be reached. But we were not getting anywhere with it. I seemed to acknowledge that it was because both of us felt strongly about our stance and it was too touchy-feely of an issue to let slide. He on the other hand kept putting me down that it's not working out because of me
since i m making it a big deal
i felt disrespected because of it
Maybe his harshness in the way that he told you he was holding on to his own views really hurt more than the difference of opinion.
ya i felt violated
i don't think it's wrong if he re-considered
what his beliefs are
everyone has freedom of thought
i just felt violated because of how he was reassuring me
You have a right to feel violated, I mean, I think I would feel the same. It's what you do with it that matters.
that he would not go back
adn he didn't seem to ever acknowledge my hurt due to it
In other words, don't let it get you down or stop you from finding true happiness!
He may have not even been aware of the hurt he inflicted upon you, but you cannot let it continue to fester.
yes he was....
he told me
that he was choosing between hurting me and his belief
and preparing himself to lose me if it came to that for few months
Then maybe he really didn't care...
about your psychological health.
ya it seemed to knew it well
and then decided to go with that change
even if it meant it hurt me
i didn't like the way he thought of it
the whole choosing belief over me
Relationships involve emotional, physical, psychological and even spiritual elements.
he could have been sensitive to my feelings and said perahps tht he knows he would hurt me but there is oemthing he has to tell me
something of that nature
I hope that you can 'let go' in order to free yourself from hurt!
actually, this happened about 2.5 years ago
i broke up with this guy over a year ago
i m pretty happy in my current relationship
That's o.k. but if you need to share about it, then do so!
ya that's all i want to do
because i took lots of crap and nonsense
and no understanding towards me
he was always into his own feelings and his own situation
when i broke up with him
You might even wish to keep what you wrote and look at it from time to time to re-release your emotions!
it was a whole drama there too
thanks for letting me share
i m sure it'll be helpful
And I am here again if need arises...Thanks, Kathleen
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