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Hi, I am here to help with your question and assist you in any way I can. Can you tell me a little about these two relationships?
HI Yes I one guy (J) I have known for a long time and for the last five years we have been friends but he has always wanted more. I adore him but didnt feel as attracted to him as I wanted to be. so I dated other people and found (M) who I am engaged to because he is a good guy and im attracted to him. but I miss J and I don't know who I want to be with more
It may be that you need to give yourself more time with these two relationships before making a serious commitment...there is so much that you may discover about each that you don't know right know, and having as much information about a person is essential before you decide to marry.
I have known M for a year and a half and I do feel like I know them both very well. I dont feel like I should rush anything either because of my feelings. I wrote a list of what I like and dont like about each one and I dont feel like it helped me really.
Is there any reason that you cannot continue to see both and tell them about the fact that you have two relationships right now?
neither of them will do that. j doesnt talk to me at all anymore.
Sorry to hear about that..it may be that you need to take a short hiatus from both relationships just in order to become grounded, get a sense of serentiy and peace, and do something to help yourself re-focus and clear your mind.
How does that sound?
Well at this point in my life I do really want tobe with someone
Perhaps this may happen soon, but take a few days to self-reflect and examine what would really make you happy in a partner.
Sometimes we have to let go in order to really know that if it comes back, it is ours.
I hope that you find all that will make you happy.
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