Good Morning - thank you for your email it is very helpful. We have been to couple councelling already as I felt that Tony was/is more willing to fix, repair anything and everything for everyone else and does not do the same for me or our home. He is a contract engineer and can fix/make repair anything - very very talented. This is the same with communication - always talking on the phone and not to me or talking over me. He also has a number of ex wives/girlfriends he talks to still and helps. The councelling did help for a couple of months though.
I really am so confused and I know that there are two sides to every story and I have bad points too. I want it work so badly but on the other hand like you say he will not change and I really dont think he will admit he has a problem as he honestly thinks that I should accept how things are and be happy and there is no problem. In light of the above do you think more councelling would be beneficial?