The reason why he is so spiteful is because he has deep down hurt that he has not healed from.
When break ups happen it isn't the easiest thing to get over specially since they have a son. He throws things up in her face about his life because he wants her to know he is fine without her, living his own life.
He wants to hurt her like she hurt him by telling her things that he is doing and how happy he is.
He is very torn about his emotions he knows the relationship they had and he cheated and things ended up with them separating. Even though he has all these emotions that relationship has long been over.
He has moved on with you and is very happy and he lets his ex know how happy he is.
But he stills has emotions that he can not fix because they never discussed them.
He never got that closure he needed.
So he is angry and upset because he has so many things to say. I can tell just by when you said he started to tear up. Some times in life you wish things were different and people make mistakes that they can never take back.
But these mistakes have been made he has moved on but is unsettled in his emotions.
His relationship with you is happy and healthy.
But he has unresolved issues with her that he has not come to terms with
and should resolve.
In order for him to get rid of that spitefulness he needs to talk about it.
You mentioned about her asking about cheating and he said no, you know this is not true he did cheat.
So he lied so he wouldn't hurt her.
Now the reason why he is sad could be that he has child with her and that could be all his emotions.
People have images of what a perfect family should be and when you have a child together you think you are going to be with the mother of your child.
But some times that is when you realize that is not the one for you and you move on, but take an active roll in your childs life.
This is what he did because I feel he knew he was in love with you and he made a choice to be with you because you were the one he wanted to be with, but he still has feelings of hurt from the past.
Well I didnt mention that he cheated on me with her. They had tried to work things out I suppose or he kept going back to her and she told him to kick rocks and what not and Im the one who staid.
He wasnt as viscious with her and such a liar about her until he found that she was dating a new guy.
He has also cheated on me with other woman as well.
A while back he had picked a fight with me and blurted out that he had F*** the Sh** out of her and asked if that is what I wanted to hear.
See the thing is, I feel like he still has feelings for her
like she still has his heart and rather than admit it he acts as if he doesnt
What do you think?
I dont know if I agree with that. See he not only cheated on me with her, yet with other woman as well. He started seeing me just two weeks prior to his son being born. He lies to me all the time, picks fights and whats most iritating is that the ex wife was at a wedding that we attended and at first he didnt want me to go and then when he found out that she was going afterall he rushed to bring me. Not only was I there but he stared at her all night.
I was the other woman that he was lying to her about and cheating with and when she found out she moved to another state to start over. I dont think he thought that she would pick up and move on.
I even heard him talking to a friend of his about how he was going to hook up with another girl behind my back. Yet again I couldnt believe him.
Her uncle and his best friend even told me that he had no intentions of being serious with me, yet that his plan of keeping her stupid backfired and that I was the next best thing, a warm blanket until he could figure out how to get her back. Well hes met with rejection with her, which he is not used to.
I also caught him lying again about his interaction with his ex wifes family. He lies about cutting them off entirely , yet I found out that he went on vacation with her unlces. These are unlces that he just met two years ago, so he had no real connection. I then come to find out that when he talks to them he ask about her yet will lie about it to me. I feel as if its him trying to keep his foot in the door.
Also he can talk to all of his exes but her he snubs. See there are times that he tried to communicate with her and since he cheated on her, well she treats everything as a lie. Shes nice to him but I feel that he knows he shot himself in the foot with her.
This has been going on for two years now and well while he says he is over her, his behavior shows otherwise.
I feel as though that he can talk to everyone else but her, like if he could figure her out hed take her back.
He also slipped up during a recent conversation with his friend that he didnt want to take me on a couples on conversation, if he loved me then why not take me?
I feel that he feels rejected by her and that is why he treats her that way and that he never anticipated getting caught which is why he is they way that he is with her.