I would feel isolated because I live alone without a partner. Also my mother easily dismisses any friendships I have and always makes me feel that I am being taken advantage of.
The phillipino lady has been here a while.She usually does change plans and I have a mutual friend that has dismissed her for that reason,they have been friends for a shorter period.
There was an occassion at work when she insisted thatI I relay to her what a work colleague said about her,As I was already angry with this colleague over another issue I decided to devulge.She later went to the manager with this and the relationship with the work colleague and I deteriorated.I know know i should of kept out of it but at the time i was trying to establish relationships.
Oh, I see. So this is definitely more complicated than initially I understood from the first message. I can certainly understand you trying to develop a relationship, and sometimes we get caught up in feeling camaraderie with another person and we end up telling them things we wouldn't normally. It definitely wasn't fair for this woman to go to the manager with the information you gave her, but I hope you aren't beating yourself up over it too badly. These mistakes happen. It also sounds very difficult to have your mother be so involved in judging your friendships. Friendships are a tricky thing because we can't always be friends with people who are exactly like us: so we have to be in control of what qualities we will allow in our relationships, and the unpleasant ones that we can look over. Some people prefer to be pickier with their friends and then have less of them, if they can be happy with being alone more often. Others feel the need to surround themselves with more people, but a greater variety, even if personalities don't always mesh so well. That's a difficult decision that only you can make.
With regards XXXXX XXXXX woman, I'm not sure she is "taking advantage" of you. But she may have poor boundaries herself, and is someone that you may wish to keep at arm's length until you have a better idea of what her own personality is like. Being friendly and superficial is OK, and sometimes there are relationships that are better left like that: friendly, casual, hanging out. You may be able to enjoy spending time with her if you know that this is someone who isn't always trustworthy, but at the same time could be fun to be around.