I would not say it is normal because there are many couples in your situation whom are sexually active, but on the other hand hand I would not say it abnormal because there are couples whom are not int mate and are fine with that. I think what is important is not what others are doing, but rather if the both of you are happy with the situation. If the both of you are happy then it really doesn't matter what is " normal" because there really isn't any complete " normal". It seems like this situation is working well for the both of you and that is what matters most. Now if one of you were not happy that is what would be a problem. Sex in a relationship is normal, but if you both do not mind being without it there is nothing wrong with that. However if one of you are not happy then I would suggest you both discuss your feelings about it and try to make a compromise as well as to understand one another better. I hope this helped and I wish you well. Please let me know if I can be if further help.
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The fact you are asking whether your situation would be considered normal or not, might indicate that you have some doubts. Relationships are complex things! due to the variety of types that make a relationship possible. The variation leads to a rather difficult definition of what's actually normal and what is not. So to simplify matters, it's 'normal' if it feels right and if it does not, then obviously something has to change. Are you asking this question because you want things to be different, better, more exciting, or are you asking to gain confirmation that you have not wasted all these years remaining together and the last 5 years without intimacy? From the limited information you provided, one can only assume that the friendship aspect of your relationship has kept you both reasonably happy over time. If you provide more detail, there is a possibility that an assessment of your situation might reveal where things could be improved or changed or the level of satisfaction increased perhaps. Feel free to ask further questions and you will get a response. Until then, I gain the impression that your relationship is based on the most important factor and that's friendship. Needs do play an important part of course, but it depends on what those needs are and if each partner acknowledges those needs. You might let us know. Thank you for sharing this issue and I hope we are able to provide some useful suggestions if you say you need them.