Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this frustrating situation.
Since you did not post your request again, I decided to reply from here. I hope it helps.
I was saying that when this is the case, most people in your shoes would feelneglected, sad and very frustrated, since for healthy and fulfillingrelationships to develop, everything involved needs to be "mutual",from respect, to affection, caring, understanding and support. Adultrelationships are not about one person denying her individuality while theother person fuels his personal ambitions totally disregarding his partner'shappiness and well-being. If it is not reciprocal, the person would feel used,neglected and even abused in more or less subtle ways, once healthyrelationships require a basic level of commitment.
Many people believe that commitment equals manipulation, control and pushing theother person, but it does not. Healthy commitment means each of youspontaneously feel the need and wish to make of the other person's happinessand well-being, number one priorities in your lives. If this is not the case,then even when there is passion, attachment, and enjoyment from what isshared,, the very core of the relationship is missing and it could notmagically evolved into a truly meaningful and mutually fulfilling life partnership - experience.
Nobody knows how a relationship would evolve with time, after months and years, but we all literally build and promote such development -reality by everything we doabout it, from feelings, to words, actions and effort. Again, it cannot bepushed, since that way it never works, it needs to be spontaneous, and for thatboth need to share same core value and belief system, and mutual expectationsin life as a couple, being empathetic and supportive about those personal needseach of you have that need to be validates, and supported too, but neverneglecting the other person's individuality, her needs and longings.
I use to say that healthy relationships are about departing from an absolute selfishlife, to an experience where that other very special person shares with you andis always taking into account as a top priority, that is never left behind nordisregarded at all, but always supported and promoted through all the possiblemeans available. It's about mutual caring, respect, understanding, compassionand support. It seems that's what you need and long for, and that's what hasbeen missing a lot in your relationship.
I hope it makes sense. Please reflect on it, on what you truly need and expect from a mature life partnership, and then dialogue with him about it, from there you would know how healthy it is for you to continue or not, based on the similarities and differences you find between you, and what each of you truly want and were willing to work on and improve.
I am sorry I was not able to reply, I was waiting here for it to appear posted, but it seems obvious the system did not allow me to see it and another expert was able to see and reply.
My response to your question is this: Each person is unique, some people feel they can and want to remain into relationships even when not feeling truly fulfilled and supported at several levels. Attachment, passion, far of loneliness.., there are many reasons people could have to start, stay or leave unfulfilling relationships, that's only you can know how you feel about it, how healthy and positive it impacts your mind, heart and body, your life as a whole in the present, and how you would feel a month or a year from now if things continue the same.
I do believe that if a person truly wants a fulfilling, healthy, mature and worthy relationship, it is essential to work on finding a partner who shares core values and beliefs, having real compatibility between personalities and life styles, and being not only willing but absolutely happy and needing to be there for each other, to support each other, from sharing domestic things, to coping with difficulties and challenges, to learn and grow together, always as a couple, with equal reciprocity, otherwise, it would not work as a healthy partnership. Unhappily most relationships are not based on what truly matters, but on property, families, finances, physical passion only, attachment, fears of loneliness, and many other reasons that should never justify starting nor staying in relationships - marriages.
Think about that, be absolutely truthful with yourself and honest towards him, and based on what you find, make your choices taking full responsibility for them, and feel fine with yourself for taking good care of yourself, since this is your first need, right and responsibility. Those willing and able to share with you at that level, good for them, welcome them and share something worthy, meaningful and fulfilling, but always with healthy boundaries and limits, as much as you happen to find yourself experiencing something healthy, something real at core levels.