Well, i asked him to talk to his dr. about it, even a therapist, no dice. I swear i really did try it the nice way and the sweet love and logic and all. Before i even knew what was going on id ask him if he "took care of it already" and would notice a branch of lies from him and quite a bit of sneakiness. He, in no way, has a desire to stop. infact hes quite convinced thats not the issue at all. I fear he enjoys it more than me and just puts out to make me feel better. Its been going on for months apparently. and well... hes been experimenting on himself. im sure its something hes afraid to disclose, and ive expressed that its ok. that i can get behind him in it, but he just denies it. even when i walk in on him. he's just like oh i was only curious it was just this once. and if it makes any difference, its gotten to the point that he'l start to say how hes not in the mood, but when hes convinced im asleep he'lldo his deed again, quirky and interesting things along with it. and once i even came out of the room after some time of watching to express that i wasnt upset. he actually denied everything- yea i caught him in the middle of it purposely to show how ok i was. he still insists on hiding and doing these things sneakily. what am i suppose to do? he wont talk about it or even admit it.