I want to get a second opinion on this. Me and my girlfriend just got back together last week and when we was together, she would sometimes talk to her ex. It bothers me but I respect that they are friends because in their relationship, he treated her wrong and he put her thru a lot. New years last year she told him to come over to her house while me, her and her best friend where there. I didnt like it but Her best friend told me that he was bringing some friends that she liked. When he left, she gave him a hug but looked at me the entire time she was hugging him, like she was trying to make me jealous. But, on January 6 they had a argument and she told me that she was done with talking to him but, when we broke up, all of a sudden he starts texting her again and trying to talk to her. So her birthday came up and we got back together right before her birthday and she told me that I should come with her to the game she was playing at so I did. She told me on the phone that we should hang out on Saturday. But then, her ex asked her to go with him to a wedding and she went with him. But on the phone she told me if anyone asked her if they were together that she would scream. And then last week on Tuesday she asked me what I was doing on saturday, like she wanted to do something with me on saturday. So I asked her if we could spend the day together. But she told me she might go to a party. Later I found out that the party was one her ex was doing, she didnt tell me that part. And, on saturday she supposed to tell me what she was going to do and she didnt. Can someone tell me what I should do about this? I dont know how to tell her that I dont like her talking to her ex but I dont want to sound controlling and she would rebell and do it anyway...
She used to do things with me, she actually would change her plans just for me but I think a week before we broke up, she thought I was talking to another girl and her attitude completely changed. She went from calling me every night and wanting to do everything with me to hardly calling me and now not wanting to do anything with me.
Do you know how I can get her to open up to me and start telling me her feelings more instead after we get back together? I dont believe she wants him back but wants to keep him as friends for some reason, but he is trying so hard to get back with her but, she had 2 weeks if she wanted to get back with him and she didnt.
Do you think she's using him to make me jealous in a good way? Maybe like a test to see how I act?
I talked to someone else and they told me that she might like a challenge in the relationship. And maybe chase me.
But right now I just feel like an option and I dont want to feel like that. We got back together but we never delt with the issues that broke us up in the first place and I think he is the first issue.