He does smoke it when watching his other daughter from his previous marriage (she is three). He waits until she goes to bed and then gets high. I told him I am uncomfortable with that and of course would be uncomfortable with him doing that with our baby. He keeps saying it doesn't affect him and say's it is fine doing it if the daughter is asleep. I guess this is all stuff we can bring up in counseling. I am starting to think he is regretting his divorce and just wonder if that is going to affect our relationship in a negative way?
I agree but what I'm having a hard time with is when to call it quits or just keep trying. We have been trying for almost two years now. I don't want to give up early if there is hope for us. That is why I think counseling would be good for us because it could help us communicate better as a couple and address our negative issues. However, part of me feels badly that he is pining after his ex wife. I understand if he needs healing time from his divorce but in the meantime it makes me feel bad. Do you think he could get to the point where he will be happy with us as a couple and not so conflicted? I agree about marijuana. I even told him I have no problem if he does it once in awhile as long as he is not watching his daughter or our baby.
I agree with you. I really hope counseling helps and I still think we can work if we can get our issues resolved. Thank you for your time again and I hope you have a nice day!