Hi, I am sorry what is happening and I do understand your concern.
You both may be at different stages in your life wanting different things and this could be why she is behaving as she is.
However, actions speak louder than words. Even though she told you how she feels she still needs to be able to show you.
I would discuss your concerns with her and see what she thinks and feels about it
Ask her questions such as what she thinks is important in a relationship and how she sees the future.
By asking her questions you will see how she thinks about your relationship in general and her goals in order to help you decide how to move on. And at the same time by her answering her own questions it will help her come to a realization of what she is wanting to see if it is correlating with her actions. Sometimes people realize things that they were not even aware of and this can promote change in her.
that is what I was thinking as well. Its not like she doesnt want to be with me, she told me she really wants to be with me and likes me alot when we got back together this week, but I cant keep doing this anymore.
I agree with you. I understand she wants to be with you. However, her actions are not showing this. She is telling you she does, but behaving differently. This is the problem. If you can't deal with it any longer you really shouldn't have to. She is behaving disrespectfully and not treating you as a person should in a relationship.
There really is no quick fix here. Either she is ready for a serious relationship or not. If you discuss this with her and see how she feels about how a relationship should be then there is not much more you can do. By doing what I said above amend asking her questions will help you see where she is at. She may want a serious relationship, but not know how to go about it. She then may need to learn what is good and what is not in a relationship. By talking about this you will have a chance to save the relationship. However, if this does not work then you may see that you both are possibly at different stages in your life and it may be time for you to either accept her way or move on from here. Either way discussing this is the best way.
Do you think she might have a problem with telling me her feelings? I think she is very scared about telling me how she feels and she thinks that I will hurt her or leave her.
She seems to just be doing what she feels and is not having consideration for your feelings. If she is afraid to talk with you I do not know as it doesn't sound like that based on what you explained. However, how does she respond when you try to talk with her? Does she shy away? Have you asked her why he behaves as she does and does not look to spend time with you?
I apologize for loosing connection the other day and that is why I did not respond the other day. If you could please change your rating to positive I would appreciate that because your satisfaction is my priority. We can continue until you satisfied with my answer.