How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Alicia_MSW Your Own Question

Alicia_MSW
Alicia_MSW, Psychotherapist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 776
Experience:  Specializing in relationship/family counseling
65143460
Type Your Relationship Question Here...
Alicia_MSW is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Hi. I did something really bad. its about a woman. I created

Customer Question

Hi. I did something really bad. its about a woman. I created a false facebook profile pretending It was a guy I though she liked and had a conversation with her. she found out it was me. I denied it and she says she knows it was me. she has deleted me from sype and another account we chat on. Will she ever speak to me again. what should I do?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Alicia_MSW replied 2 years ago.
Hi, I'm Alicia. Thanks for asking your question - I'm happy to help you today.


I don't know if this situation is irreparable or whether she will be able to forgive you - it really depends on her, and what you say to her from this point forward. Basically, her trust in you (if there was any to begin with, I don't know what your relationship was with her prior to the fake facebook account incident) has been broken and you have to step back for a little while and give her space so she can deal with the immediate feelings of anger and betrayal. If you try to pursue her or get her to talk to you now, you're probably only going to end up pushing her away more. I know it can be tempting to try to talk to her now, but it's not going to work - give her a few days, then send her an email of sincere apology. I wouldn't try to call her, because then emotions can quickly get out of hand. Just sit down today and think about how you would compose an email to her to explain your behavior and actions (what motivated you to do this in the first place, etc) and let her know that you are very sorry you hurt her and broke her trust in you, etc. Be honest and let her know, for example, that you really care about her and would not do anything to hurt her from this point forward if she would think about forgiving you. Send it to her in a few days then just wait and see if she responds. Unfortunately, you're going to have to give her space and time and let the ball be in her court right now, and whether she does decide to forgive you ultimately will depend on her. I know it's not ideal, but sometimes we have to live with the ramifications of our actions (even temporarily, if she does manage to get over it and forgive you.)


I hope it works out. Please let me know if I can provide further assistance.
Customer: replied 2 years ago.

I have always been a gentlemen with her before this incident and she had a lot of trust in me. What are the chances that it can be repaired?

Expert:  Alicia_MSW replied 2 years ago.
Hi again,

In my opinion, if you've always had a good relationship with her and there haven't been any previous trust issues between the two of you, then there are really two ways to look at the situation. On the one hand, if she had a lot of trust in you before this happened, then the betrayal might hurt even more, but on the other, she might be more willing to give you another chance due to your previous friendship. So it's hard to say for sure, because it all depends on how she looks at the situation and whether she's willing to try again - but just don't expect too much from her too soon. Rebuilding trust is a slow process - but hopefully it will be worth it in the end and I think if you take it one step at a time, your chances are better than if you rush things too much.

Best of luck.

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Previous | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Kate McCoy

    Kate McCoy

    Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    1637
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy's Avatar

    Kate McCoy

    Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    1637
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/IN/intrapsyc.com/2012-2-20_161928_RGMTPicturex5002012.64x64.png Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    914
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/mschase2u/2009-01-04_010319_chaseface.jpg Ms Chase's Avatar

    Ms Chase

    Life Coach

    Satisfied Customers:

    853
    Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/AL/aliciamiller/2012-4-9_21330_profilepicture.64x64.jpg Alicia_MSW's Avatar

    Alicia_MSW

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    406
    Specializing in relationship/family counseling
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/NP/nphbrown/2012-7-30_24048_ImYrManSerious1.64x64.jpg Dr. Norman Brown's Avatar

    Dr. Norman Brown

    Marriage Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    401
    Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/HU/hungryjack20/IMG_1281_edit_2.64x64.jpg Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    364
    Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/SU/suzmsw/2011-9-2_184634_Thisone.64x64.JPG Suzanne's Avatar

    Suzanne

    Therapist, LCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    338
    Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency