Since they were not dating and not in a serious relationship then no one should be feelings guilty.
I think that the cousin should know what is going on so the couple can move forward and not be focusing on feelings guilty. The cousin could be fine with them dating.
She might have not have dated the guy because she didn't have feelings for him in that way, so she moved on.
I feel that the person should tell their cousin on their own.
The reason is because she might be embarrassed if he is there.
What she should say is some times people develop strong feelings for each other.
These feelings are something she never felt before and I never thought that I would find my soul mate but I did. I know it was someone that you have seen before, but I love him, he loves me and we want to be together.
We have been seeing each other, but it is hard to focus on loving each other because I feel so guilty.
I would never want to hurt you in anyway and I care about what you think. This has been bothering me so much.
I just hope that you will understand and that you can be happy for me.
I knew that what you had with him was not serious and you both never made a commitment.
Our feelings for each other developed rather quickly and we just new we were in love.
Some times you just find the right person and I never thought this was going to happen.
We have discussed it with each other many times on what to do, we even thought about talking with you about it together.
I want to make sure that you didn't have strong feelings for him because I would feel so bad about this.
But I want you to know that we truly love each other and we are planning for the future to be together.
I feel that if the cousin was told it would be a huge burden lifted off them so that they could focus on each other. They don't want this to effect their relationship where their concern becomes the cousin and they don't focus on loving each other, growing as a couple and creating a strong bond.
The couple has strong feelings for each other and should bot feel guilty because they fell in love. Not everyone has an attraction to each other. Once you find that special someone you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
This couple has found true love and they should be together.
The connection they have is something they shouldn't hide, it would be so much better if she comes right out and tells her that she loves him. The cousin should be happy for her that she found the love of her life.
so she shouldn't feel convicted based on her friends advice?
People all have different opinions when it comes to relationships. That is her friends opinion, but she doesn't know how much in love the couple is, so she can't say what she would do in this situation.
When it comes to the cousin and his relationship there wasn't a relationship they never dated.
but they were intimate, though she didn't know this at the time.
If she didn't know any of this then she should not in anyway feel bad. This was something she didn't know. These people are in love and this should not effect their relationship. They have a future together.
thanks...I will share this.