Thank you for the request. Based upon what you have told me, you and your girlfriend had a spiritual type of relationship, ie. you are soul mates. It is clear to me that you are maintaining this connection, which is to be expected given the depth of your relationship.
As far as having a clear conscious, I think that your girlfriend would like for you not to be lonely, so a companion rather than a romantic partner could help you have a different type of connection with someone.
If and when the time comes that you want to take a friendship to the next level, I am sure you will know in your heart, mind, and soul whether you are ready. Based on what you have told me, it seems that your girlfriend loves you enough that she would be willing to let go of you in this Earthly life if it would bring you happiness. I do not see any reason that it would jeopardize any later chance of re-connecting with her.
Please let me know if this answers your question.
Thanks again Julie. For me, and it should not be a surprise to you as well, especially between men and women specifically, there is a thin line between friendship. companionship, casual relationship, romantic relationship. A little wine and music and the right location and circumstance can dissolve that line. I will try not to initiate contacting women on the online dating, will try to meet at auctions or other events (which I think is always better) however if a female initiates , and we both feel comfortable to chat more or meet....should i keep things light or before it goes further expose I feel like a widower , define a line I don't want to cross? The chance that she just totally backs off is the concern.
Based on what you have told me, I would keep things light at first until you get to know the person better. By keeping things light, I mean I would stick to the coffee houses and avoid the wine, music, and candlelight type of places until you really know the woman. Otherwise, you run the risk of sending a very mixed message.
Once you think that you can trust the person to try not to your situation (or your emotions), that would be the time to disclose your that you are not really in a place to make a serious long term commitment. Then, define your boundaries. If the person values your friendship and companionship, she will respect your boundaries. If not, she is really looking for something else and has little respect for you; therefore, if she "backs off," you have not wasted your time and energy. Most of all, you will have remained true to yourself and your girlfriend.
This is a new question Julie. I dont understand why it is "reply to expert" status. Also I hope you did receive tips. I left.
I see and would like to understand why that many widows in the online dating site I am on have "serious relationship" rather than " casual relationship" ? Dont they have respect to who they were married to? How do they live with their conscious. I would feel I was cheating on my late girl friend. The only logical explanation I have is that they were unhappy relationship and are happy their other half croaked or they need financial as well as emotional support.
Since you helped me a lot so far, I included some pics which I hope can be keep private or offline from the web. Thanks again. John.