I am sorry about the site problems.
I think that you have represented yourself very well. The only thing I am concerned about the information your girlfriend. The reason being is that there are many women out there that think they need to "fix" the situation for you, which is something that you and I both know is not desired or feasible. Chances are that you would find yourself resentful of such actions. I think providing this in depth disclosure of your circumstances would be much better suited to a chat. That way you can assess of this women with whom you are speaking is someone that can respect your situation and be trusted not to "fix" it.
Back to your question about things to do. Perhaps going to some estate sales night be an option. Start a conversation with someone who is looking at an item that you find interesting. That would seem to be a "safe" neutral type of place.
I hope this answers your question. If not, please let me know what I need to clarify. Otherwise, please accept my answer and rate my service.