All I hear is about his trust issues and being hurt. We all have been there and not to be unkind but 58 years aold grow up. Whne we first met all I heard was how lonely he was.. And he never thought he would find anyone else/ To me you think he would leanr two months of lovign is not enough to sustain a relationship. Ad my God I have been patient. He has to know this is affecting me. Sometimes I think he wnats to make me mad. Then I'll leave him and this will giv him a break from me. Then he can pursue me again.
He jokes aobut dumping me before my birthday. Thne getting me back . I do not find this funny. And I told him you go or we break up then that its forever.
He hates to discuss issues like this and then contends I'm having a meltdown. His bestfriend is going through a marital breakup of sorts. I think he takes all this in and gets scared. I am not asking to get married.
Thanks- I am growing impatient. What gets me is why sabatoge the relationship he claims he wanted? One month he is all loving and then wham it's like he doesn ot want to be bothered. He claims he isn ot the lovey dovey kind. Well I am.. And wwe shall see after this week. Valentines you know. When I go to his home unless he backs off. I go in kiss him and then we watch movies. Tomorrow we are supposed to go out?? I know when we go to bed he will be like i love goodnight . This time I think I'll wait to see if he makes the attempt. If I jsut say good night and turn over then he'll think I am mad. He wil get what he wants. So I just keep being sweet.. It's as though he wnats time off and then whne he relaizes hei s lonley or whatever does what he can to get be back. And sleeps. Last weekend all day SAturday till late evening. Sleep- stare into space. Now he was good for awhile then back again..
I'll check back next week. But if he wants toend it then why not just say so. Unless he wants me to be the one.It's like he is in another world. He may have feelings but they are what makes him happy. And your right time wil tell next week. I really wanted to hold out until my birthday in March, So if he is planning to dump I want to tolerate this and then blow up. Say everything and walk out...and say se la vie--Get it all out in one big swoop!!!/ I do not understnad this type of love. To me and correct me if I am wrong. If you do not want intimacy reason would be
1. You love someone else
2. You dont' love somene but you don't love the person your with
3. You have a physical problem
4. Your scared.
He has been married twice. Now he did love the woemn who ran off with otherds. Gee I wonder why? He is no dummy.
Karin- over the weekend he was so so Friday night affectionate. SAturday we wento utduring the day. Later in the evneing he said he enjoys my company and I was a good companion. He was not into all that lovey dovey stuff. So I said what am I doing here tehn? He mumbled something nad did his usual fall asleep nonenset toavoid conversation. So we both feel asleep watching tv. He woke up and did not wake me. I know from previous experience he has left me to sleep there all night. So I fooled him and while he was in the bathroom I got undressed and when he returned went to the bathroom When I returned lights were out and I got inot bed wnet to sleep. No kisss no goodnight. Wy becasue I was pissed. Companion. I told him before thjis wasn ot my interest. I have no asked for marriage or anything so involved.So let me go if all you want is a buddy. I love you.. But it never changes. A day here or there but then back to the same nonsense.
Then Monday when I left he had finished my trunk that he had been working on for nearlythree months, Told me alot oheart and soul went into
this project. I said isnt that what matters ?
He said to call him later. Some times he forgets and calls me. So I waited till 5:30 pm est He was fine
He called yesterday and he helped me with something for a half hour.He seemed more attentive nad kissed for a bit.
I cannot stand this getting into bed turning his back. He says its more comfortable. It has nothing to do with ignoring me, Ok but no touching he
makes gestures lie to get off of him,
I know if we disucss this he will blame me or turn the tables. Liie Sunday he goes you did not kiss me goodnight. ? He knew he said the worn things. And I believe he fretted over it until he fell asleep. So there is my story. I am to see him tonight 2-13 and I have my valentines gifts .He probably will not even have a card.. I plan to give it to him anyway.At some point this will end .because I'll have had my fill or he will not be able to stand me all the time if he wants his freedom more.