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I have been in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 years. We are

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I have been in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 years. We are both in our late 50s and live in separate homes. He is working extra hours and assisting with an elderly parent. My question is does it sound like he wants to break up when he told me Monday night he needed space but still loves me? He hasn't called or stopped by since then.
Submitted: 1 year ago.
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Expert:  Ryan LCSW replied 1 year ago.
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I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through in your relationship, and I can certainly understand why you would be concerned about this being a sign that you may break up. In general a lot usually depends on the reason that he feels like he needs space. If he is just overwhelmed because of the extra working hours and assisting his parent, it's possible that the space is more about him just taking care of these things in his life right now, rather than it being reflective of a problem in your relationship.

Even if you do get the impression that there are some issues in your relationship that has caused this, there are many situations where a couple takes some space, resolves these issues, and ends up stronger in the long run for it. From what you described I would say that unless this is a direct result of a situation or problem that you've been having in your relationship, then it's certainly possible that this really is more about him being overwhelmed and needing space to deal with that, rather than him trying to end your relationship.

If this continues to go on indefinitely, then at some point you do have a right to know what's going on. As of now it seems like you've been handling this appropriately in trying to be respectful of what he is asking for, and the hope is that he will appreciate that when he is in a better frame of mind to work on your relationship. I definitely wish you the best with all of this, and if there's anything else I can do to help please let me know.

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Customer: replied 1 year ago.


Should I not contact him at all or do you think it will hurt? I thought about sending a text to say I love him.

Expert:  Ryan LCSW replied 1 year ago.
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