Thank you for your prompt reply. I think you a right (probably I know in myself but it is hard to accept).
I would like just to add some things, maybe there is other point as well what you could find out about him/us:
- his wife split up with him about 1,5 year ago, they don't have children together but his wife has got a 2 years old boy when they met. As I heard my boyfriend treated like his child the little kid. Now he is 8 years old. Since they broke up he couldn't see the child. I think this is some revenge or something like this.
- then (as far as I know) he met with the other girl and he was in love with her (this is what he told). She split up with him ..they were together for 6 month (on and off) and they moved together at that time.
- when we met he was over with past (he told me), so therefore it was obvious for me that everything is fine. Especially that treated me on the best way.
When he met with my parents (he invited them to his place) I just felt myself like in a fairytale..I found finally the man whom I was looking for.
Is it possible that I scared him that I am a very reliable person? As far as I know him he is/was the same...I just don't understand at all how he has been changed so quick.
I know that he doesn't have anybody else but I also know that takes antidepressant medicine. I know from him that his depression started when his marriage has been broken.
When he told me last week that would like to go probably to work abroad (Australia) we could carry on with relationship as he is not sure yet whether would get there a job. I try to think as an outsider and I find this statement selfish...but I try to understand him. Is it possible that he is scared not to get hurt again? I try to believe as I am not a pushy person, but maybe I was...
We went together to a lot of places, had such a lot of lovely weekends..
You wrote : "Narcissists do not have the capability of feeling empathy for other people." - is it possible really that he is this sort of person even he shows that he is carrying about me. For me it seemed that he is carrying about everybody accept for himself, and now he shocked me that he wants to go to Australia (that is the first time that i saw that he wants to do for himself something).
I told him that I would never ask him to stay here if he thinks that his fate is there...his answer was that he doesn' t want to stay there forever and I could come with him.
Unfortunately I can't as I can not leave here my parents and how could I go to somebody who is not in love with me?
Do you really think that he is so selfish and he does want to escape from his feelings?
I know it is not easy to give the right answer but probably you could write down something else that you think about it. I believe that I wrote down every important information.
You don't think that in some month something would change, do you? I try to believe that yes (this is what my soul is telling), but my brain tells me different..
Thank you for your reply in advance.
PS: I think I wrote incorrect. He told he loves me, but he is not in love with me...
he also mentioned that is possible needs more time but I mean a lot to him (that is the reason that I thought he is scared about his feeling - maybe I was naive)