I understand and I have been trying to do that. I guess time is the answer. The biggest problem is we cannot be in each others arms all the time, so the reinforcement is not 100% present.. She gives everything to me sexually like she has with many other guys who have treated her poorly since she was 15. I know she understands that I struggle with this and she has been very good. I don't want to push her away. I know it's shallow, but I want to have something from her that no other guy has had sexually. She has already given me her complete love, which is why I keep going. We can never give up our love it's just that I don't feel like anything special has been saved for me. I know it's the separation, because when we are in each others arms the world is right. Is it possible to keep this up for 7 years?