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Your husband needs to understand that being married is a two way deal, and that he is asking for his interests and needs to be accommodated, which they are, whilst yours are ignored and set aside.
It seems that perhaps you have made a bad decision to have married him and moved away from your children.
You have three options, as I see it.
Put up with it, which is surely not acceptable.
Request that you go to marriage counselling together. You can start off by getting a book that I will recommend below.
If he will not change his ways (learn new tricks or ways of being an equal partner) then you might be best to end the relationship and move back to where your children live, or start a new chapter in your life in some other way.
The book that I highly recommend is:
I shall keep you both in my prayers.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC