Thanks for giving all the details.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your girlfriend. It sounds like she is a soul mate to you. Even though the two of you were not married, the grieving process is the same for both. It sounds as if the two of you shared a stronger relationship than some couples that are legally married. Based on what you have written, it sounds like you the two of you had a marriage of the heart.
It does not sound like you are in a place for a romantic relationship since you seem to already have had that "great love of a life time." It sounds like you are looking for more of a companion than a romantic partner. I suggest that indicate on your dating profile that you are looking for someone for friendship rather than romance. This will help keep those women who are looking for something more from responding. It seems like responding to those women who are looking for more than you want might be taking a toll on you.
Your honesty is admirable and rare. If there is someone out there who is the "right fit" those qualities are what will help you find each other.
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Thank you . Let me share with you a story and then when you respond I will mark this finished and leave tip. Sometime in the 6th year of our relationship, I was feeling I was not doing enough for her or she was getting bored with me. I was so scared I was about to lose her. I had to do something so she would not leave. I bought a gold and diamond heart and gold chain from a major jewerly store ...about 600.00. I did not want something cheap or chincy. she lived in NYC and the train ride to me is 3 hours one way. One morning when she just got off the train, I said I had something for her. I gave her the box and she opened it. I told her what I was feeling and I needed to do something (this was not the first time i felt she was through with me). She was shocked and surprised and asked why I did this and all that stuff....and she said " I never though of leaving you, why would you ever think that?" She must of though I lost my mind. I am sure she knew I would never had cheated. She was Hindu I am christian, both with family values but because of distance and work, living together either in the city or in the country would been strain on work and money. Someone would suffer big time. So we kept it this way. Everytime I bring this story up, I tear up. Thank You. I disabled my account for the holidays, I will think about enabling it again and change to campanion. This is tuff. Lets see what happens. If you care to comment please do. thanks.
Thank you for sharing that beautiful story. It seems like you must have some wonderful memories. Use them to remember and take comfort in the fact that the two of you shared a relationship that few people have the opportunity to experience in their lives.
Physical distance can always make people feel a bit insecure in their relationships, so do not be hard on yourself about that.
Take some time to heal. The grief process takes longer than a couple of years for some people, especially when the relationship is as deep and fulfilling as the one it seems as if you had with your girlfriend. Even if you find someone who seems appealing through these dating sites, take it slow and easy.
Thank you. Please let me know how things work out for you or if you have any further questions.
Will do. I have not repopulated the description sections on my ourtime.com page. I may still do it soon. I think I would get those "rebound attitude" women because it's a new year or near valentines day and they had enough of being strung along. The older you get,the more nut cases , Kling-Ons, money-poor women that need someone to support them come out. I may need to come to you to see how to rewrite my description. Do you do that?
I think you have good insight about the timing of re-launching your profile. It is definitely the time of year that people are looking for romance. And yes, dating is quite a bit different in one's 40's, 50's, and 60s than what it is when people are in their 20s.
You can just click on the jadt65 link in this discsuuion thread and it will take you to my profile. Alternatively, you can just post a question leading it with For jadt65 and I will get an email notification of the question.