Hi. I'd like to help if I can.
Hi thank you
Im trying to work out if im being played or not
So "taking it slow" means something different to each individual. So he said you "made it all about sex". Sounds like he wants more than just that. Having a discussion with him and asking him maybe to describe to you what taking it slow would look like.
Some people might think taking it slow is being intimate 3 times a week rather than daily. others mean no sex for months.
Yes he said I put pressure on him when it came to sex I didnt realise I did that but have backed off now.
I only see him a couple times a week I would like more but dont want to pressure him
Well, i think that's great that you listened to his feelings and have responded to him accordingly.
Sounds perhaps he is going through some stressful times right now.
Yes he made me look at myself which is a good thing. He has a lot on his plate yes.
The thing is to I called last night no answer that has happened a few times and I get a bit suss as he doesnt like it when he calls me and i miss a call
Having a discussion with him about how he would like to proceed slowly might be good if you haven't gotten clarification on this from him yet.
So that wont put pressure on him
he also has a girl a freind that he talks to on a dating site even though he is hiden so know one else can see him. Im not happy about that but says i cant tell him what to do
which I wasnt I just said Im not happy about that
Maybe telling him you understand that he would like to take things slow and that you realize that for him things were apparently going too fast and that you want to ensure that you don't put pressure on him. Then ask him to tell you if there are specific things you can do to go slower. I don't think that is putting pressure on him. Calling or texting or emailing him several times a day about it wouldn't be good. Wait, I just saw your information about a girlfriend that he has. I would be quite concerned about that if I were you.
I have male freinds too just freinds he said they are freinds and has informed me about them. I said well text her he said she doesnt like to use her credit
He said he has known her for a long time
i see, well, it still bothers you.
It does as he has another freind that wants more and he has said no then finished the freindship but he said he saw her the other night. He thinks her sister puts her up to it
I would at least have that discussion with him and go from there.
so I should talk to him about it
He is telling me about it and he couldve said nothing
if it bothers you and it also depends on how invested you are in the relationship i would say
Ive invested a lot so suppose its better to talk about it
I think so. I think its also important to really know how you are feeling about him and how fast or slow you are taking things. If you get the feeling that he is just brushing you off or you don't feel that he is treating YOU fairly, then really consider continuing in the relationship.
Ok thank you that is what Ive been thinking thanks
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