Kate, When I was young, I had very low self esteem, even thru my early forties, I was so wanting friends , when in my late 20,s I made friends with some people who would make me the tail of a joke and used me a lot including my older sister. Now that I have worked thru some self esteem issues, I want nothing to do with the old crowd even though they want to be friends with me. It seems as though they don't get it. I don't like them, so I avoid them. Is this o. k. for a 65 year old to act? I can't let by gones be by gones .