Thank you for you reply, just one thing i want to know now, he seems infatuated withi his new girl, he met her befor me and dated her three time s and said he hd a big connection with him, she is into all the same stuff as him such as gaming and anime cartoons, but she had a bf and she woudnlt leave him ayear later she see on fb that i am going to meet him so she suddenly pops up and says she has feeling for him so after my first date with him he put me aside to persue her but she kept making excuses about a lack of money to travel to him plus again she had a bf and in the end she woudldn't leave him, so my ex came back to me and seemed to forget her for a while. This is now the girl he is seeing. Being a narcissist is he going to treat her better than me or is he going to go through the idealistaion, divalue and dicard with her even though he had more in common with her?
Last thing I want to ask you and thank you for helping me, I appreciate it. I always have been a little shy but with my previous boyfriends I could always talk to them, we didn't need to be sitting watching films everynight, we would talk a lot but I found with this ex that i was anxious with him and found it not so easy to talk to him, I used to have to have a glass of wine before i went to his house for about the first 4 months. he once blew up at me in a rage because i told him i was feeling quite, this was the worst rage I had seen and lasted and evening and a day. I used to dread the film ending because i didn't know what to talk to him about, i've never had this before has this anything to do with his Narcissistic Personality Disorder or that we really didn't have enough in common. i took an interest in his interest but his interest were very narrow such as gaming, I would sit with him whilst he played but he would never let me play and he never took an interest in my interests, I asked him if he wanted to see my art portfolio and he said no.