Dear XXXXX, Thank you for your advice. I will do as you suggest and speak to him when we are in Australia. What hurts me the most, is that I have left my children behind in the UK (they are 22 +20) to be with him in Australia. I feel that I have made an enormous sacrifice which he cannot reciprocate by even giving me a few weeks of happiness when I am here. His answer to this is "You wanted to live here when I asked you".
He has a small family and one brother and the family dynamic is a little different to mine. He is always criticising his mum in particular - she annoys him within seconds.
The only person he loves without criticism is his daughter.
I feel he lacks empathy and is emotionless at times. The hardest thing in the world for him to do is to say sorry. Sometimes I have said sorry just to make peace. He will hold a grudge and never forget it.
Things are different in Australia but if my brothers come to visit - he starts withdrawing himself, working late etc so that he doesnt have to communicate with them. It is very awkward and again I am left feeling very uncomfortable. The last time it happened in Australia- we had a huge "discussion" and I explained that I thought he was very unfair. He said he would try but as I said, within a couple of days of being here, he has issues.
I think he is very insecure but very proud. I do love him, but his behaviour and attitude is causing me alot of hurt.