Yes, I'm not sure what to do or whether he's sending signals that it's ok too. He's the first guy in years I've thought about breaking my no dating rule for (and he overhead me tell someone I don't date....I didn't know he was on the otherside of the cube wall or I wouldn't have said it when they asked why I never married). He's very difficult to read and is incredibly shy and private so he may mean nothing by the things he does. He told me once that it was 9 yrs before he talked to anyone and now only talks to 6 people or so (out of 500). I kinda pushed him into talking to me, every now and then, when he was in my area...his dept was moved in July and I thought I wouldn't see him anymore and he'd forget about me but he'd come down and find me but I didn't think he was looking for me so I blew him off. He knows I come in his area at certain times and appears to look for me because I run into him alot in the hallways. He got really angry at me once and I asked for it and I told him I wouldn't bother him and although he went out of his way to say I could, I still try to not bother him so when he comes around, I say hi and keep going so not to bother him. He does light up when I'm around but I think he's waiting for me to say something because he has opened his mouth to speak, but I always, in not trying to bother him, put my head down and walk off and I see out of the corner of my eyes that he shuts his mouth and walks off. We are an awful lot alike in that we are very private and shy people and don't bother anyone unless it's ok. And I know how weird that sounds because I'm not saying it right. I just don't want to push him for something he's not wanting to give. And, because it's at work, I don't want to embarrass him in anyway. I know what I see, but he's so hard to read, I just don't know if he means anything by it.
Thanks for your answer. It's just been so long since in was in "girl world" so to speak, I wasn't sure if what I was seeing was real or whether that's normal and he was just being nice which I don't think he's that kind of person because when I first started coming around, he wouldn't speak period and I asked a couple people what I'd done and they said nothing, he doesn't talk to anyone, just ignore him. It took me a long time to get him to speak and I had to go in his area every night. I finally left him a note saying I was sorry that I irritated him so much and wouldn't come around anymore until he was gone. And I did but he caught me one night and we talked it over, actually I think he practiced what he wanted to say because I couldn't keep up with him because he jumped around in his conversation so much and he was nicer after that and one day I got up the courage to thank him for listening and for changing. He works at my second job so before they moved him, I got 2-3 seconds with him and that's it.....kinda hard to leave much of any impression in that short of time. Anyway, I think I just needed a little verification that my thinking that one of us would give up was a very real possibility. He has always made me start the conversation but carried it once it was started. But after what happened, I just stopped everything and I just ignored him for so long, he'd look, but I'd just stay focused on what I was doing and not acknowledge that I even saw him. When I finally decided maybe it was ok to say hi, he lit up and said a very shy hi back and that's where it's stayed for the last 1-1 1/2 mos. I had convinced myself that he hated me until he saw me in pain once (I didn't know he had come in where I was) and when I heard the door shutting, I opened my eyes and turned around and he was really struggling with what he should do. I've never forgotten the look on his face or his desperation to see back in where I was. But, see, that's him......He didn't know whether to speak or not......so he played it safe and didn't. I'm sorry. I just meant to thank you and have written a book! The only time I tried to talk to someone about him they told me he's not interested and quit wasting my time. And, maybe they were right.....he's a very challenging person to figure out. Thanks for listening.
No, I won't write anymore but thanks, again, for listening. In thinking it over, It just seems like we're both waiting for the other to do something and in the process might end up missing out on something kinda special because we're afraid the other one will say no. And, looking back, I can see in his own awkward way, he's had the courage to try and I didn't respond because I didn't know what he was doing so maybe it's my turn to get over what happened and have the same courage.