I would like to help.
Is it that you love him so much that you become jealous and therefore that is what is hurting your husband?
Does he give you reason to become jealous or do you feel that it is your love or insecurities?
yes, my feelings has become under of control
No, in fact not, but we have differences because I am older than him
Do you understand that jealousy and love are separate? Do you feel insecure because you are older?
and I don't know why it has become so painful for me
yes it is because I am older than him
Does he treat you any differently than before and how long have you both been together?
we are married for ten years and we start to have some problems since last september, when things start to get worst
Was it due to your age or just various things?
In fact because of my age
it is been tough
I dont't know what to do
I am so sorry you are going through this. Just to understand better has he been treating you differently and then you became jealous or you became jealous and then he started treating you differently
Yes. because of the subsequents problems we have because of my jealous things start to become different between us,he doesn't feel the same
he says I need some help otherwise we have to end up our relationship
I understand. It is difficult to say exactly since I do not know the details of what happened, but I would not blame yourself for everything. If he feel he needs to be there for you as well instead of allowing it to get to the point of it changing the way he feels. However, the fact that he is saying for you to get help is a good thing. This means that he does have hope for the relationship. Are you willing to get help?
yes i am,
Counseling can help with your insecurities and to make changes.
That is good
Change can occur
It is a slow process. Just think
I live in the Uk, where I can get help??
Your husband loves you or he would not still be with you.
He says he loves me, but the things that I been doing, that puts him off
You were not like this before and we all go through phases in our lives. This is okay, but the important thing is to learn and make changes.
How can I get help?#
Try not to allow your jealousy to over power you.
I felt every time I tried
Let me check for you. Please give me a few moments.
Try and separate what is real and what is your problem. I will be right back.
should I wait?
I will just be about 2 minutes. If you can that would be great.
Thanks for waiting. You can go to this site
And go to find a therapist
Then put your area and it will give you several options
Remember stay positive. It is not about changing overnight or making one big change. It is about little changes over a long period of time. Also, remember he is there to help you. Analyze before you say anything and decide if you feel it is your issue or not then decide to act or not.
Do you think that I can still save my relationship?
There is another site
Yes, you can still save your relationship.
The fact alone he is still there and wanting you to get help is a huge factor.
I am reading the book women who love too much
If he was done he would not even be giving that option.
Separate your love and jealousy. Love him, but try and show it in positive ways. Try not to allow it to turn into negativity.
he says that I need to make changes otherwise things won't be work anymore
That would be counterproductive. Reading books as these are good help.
that is the point
I can't control, when I see I have alteady done and saying things
It is good that he is being honest telling you the issues, so that you can know and make the necessary changes.
I messed up our xmas and new year
he was so upset
We can not change what we have done, but each moment brings a new opportunity to try
Make changes in each daily moment. Do not allow your age to make you feel insecure. He would not be there is he did not love you. Allowing your insecurities to take control will not help. You know the problems and that is good because some people blindly repeat them. You have the opportunity to change just based on the fact that you are aware. That is HUGE.
That is what I am looking for
Yes, I am going to seek advice
I really need, that was good to talk to you
how can I do to como back to chat?
come back sorry I typed wrong
Are you still there??
Anytime you would like to talk again
You can request me
How can I do it??
I would be more than happy to help anytime
It has been my pleasure. Even after you rate me you can still come back here for as long as it stays opened and when it eventually closes then you would ask a new question the same way as you did this.
Staying positive is very important. Don't allow your past mistakes to dictate your future.
There is still hope for your relationship.
ok, thank you for now, I really appreciate.
Anytime! I wish you all the best. Starting counseling will show your husband you want to make changes and I will also be here whenever you need.
Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX best for you too.
Thank you. I appreciate it. Happy New Year!
Happy new year.