Hi and thank you for writing JA
I have read your post, happy to work with you, are you here>
Hi and so nice to see you
You know this post is very confusing to me.
He seems to like you well enough but the sexual piece is lacking
and that worries me a bit
I am just not buying his explanation
so I am struggling with an answer for you
I have a really hard time with his response
It does not ring true for me, is there more you wish to share on this?
Oh I suppose it would be more from you if that is okay>
are you grossly overweight>?
something that would turn him off?
By the way I hated asking you that
Yep I think so too
I think he has a problem about this and I am not sure what you can do about this
it is really his problem you see
I would say that he has to rally, not you
and I would also say be so careful not to take his problem personally
I think perhaps he should be ther person writing and not you
He has an issue here and I cannot tell what that might be
it is his issue, not yours
do you see?
I would ask him what he feared? because I think sexual intimacy is about trust and I would want to know what he feared
I would explore that with him
so I could help him to overcome that fear and move forward
Do you have any idea about what drives him?
You know this is tough
he is a nice enough guy that you are attracted and attached to him but at the same time
it is so peculiar that he is not able to be intimate and in my practice I would say
wait and see
I agree with you
but here is the thing, you are one nice woman and you deserve some intimacy and
Bless you girl
I have to go with the gold standard on this which is ninety days
that is a rule we mental health professionals use to test out a situation
can you give this ninety days before making up your mind?
I would stay with him and just wait three months to see how it goes
and I am pretty sure things will improve in the romance department
I think he has trust issues and that is his problem
I am so not the boss
but totally in your court
do you love him yet?
LOL you are one smart chick
but here is the thing
give him ninety days to come around
and if he does not
rethink the whole relationship and continue to be "independent you"
you are one very bright lady and I think you can pretty much find a guy
who will appreciate you
very smart lady
It has been my pleasure and do me a favor, and at no charge, let me know how this goes for you?