I am looking for to work things at work. For them to be on my side. maybe I give bad body language, maybe I stair to much, give them the impression that I want to flirt. And I am being scan all this time. they are checking me out to see what kind of person that I am.. What I know is I am a good person. Better then them.
Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.It sounds like your co workers are not giving you a fair chance to be part of the group at work. If they are playing games like that, it makes it difficult to know how to act so you can be included. That often happens in groups, especially at places like work where there is a sort of "click" sometimes. That is, people tend to stick together and exclude others they don't feel they want to "accept" into the group. It can be very difficult to cope with and makes it hard to do your job.What you can do is try to be friendly when you do see these people. Smile and say hello. Then keep your distance and focus on your job. Being friendly helps you appear open and most people cannot make a big deal out of someone being friendly. Face them and smile. Ignore them when they turn their backs to you. What they do is about them and not you. They are not acting in a mature way when they do those things. So ignore their behavior. They will get tired of doing it after a while when they see it doesn't work. Also, focusing on your work will make your boss happy. Plus even if they wanted to let you into the group, it doesn't sound like a group that anyone would want to be a part of. They seem to exclude others and maybe even talk about them amongst themselves, which does not sound like a great group to be part of.Try focusing on making friends and finding support outside of work, or even outside of your department at work. Join groups that you are interested in. Go out with other friends to meet new people. Open up your social circle through your interests. For example, if you like to work out, join a gym. That is a good way to meet others. Also consider talking to a therapist. With what you have been through at work, you need support and someone on your side. A therapist can help you cope and you can learn ways to reduce your stress and connect to others. Talk to your doctor about a referral. I hope this has helped you,KateMay I please request that if you find the service I provided helpful at all that you rate me with three or above? Your rating is the only way I am reimbursed for my answer. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for the positive rating! I appreciate it.
My best to you,
Also the problem that I have is I dont know why to look at people, especialy at man. This is so embarasing but it is time to fix this problem that I have. So I wont'n have no one questioning me. I think all this problems cames with do way I look. Please help me. When I look at man especialy, if they are talking to me I stair at them I suppose to focus on what are they saying but no. I stair so much give them the impression that I want them to tell me they they like me or the other way aroung, I like them and give the wrong impression that I am flirt. Please help I need to fix this asap. Also I have anxiaty and depression, I what know what to do. I'd like to look like a normal person. What is your thought about this, can I fix?
Alexandra Da Silva
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If it is ok with you that we continue, I will be back on line in the morning (it is late here) to answer your questions.
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