My husband is a typical type A who was used to being at the top of his class and proved to his father that he could make it to a top marketing firm in his country. He left it as he felt it was limiting his life. He moved country and we met 5 years later. At the start of our relationship - as in, on our first date, he disclosed that he doesn't get much money. I didn't know what that meant but later found out that he used to earn more about 3x more than he does now but was fired from a job by clashing with his boss. He gets frustrated that he's earning less than me and in turn is studying most of our marriage (doing postgrad exams). He has been stuck on 2 in particular and failed them 2x already. He is due to do them again this coming week. Because of his constant 'need to study' I find myself alone a great deal. He knows it but says he wants to be a better provider for the family. He has tried some interviews at work and doing these exams to be better. Before he married, his mother was also complaining that he didn't have much to offer the family.He felt ashamed and so did his own family because they are poor, but with much pride. My parents paid for our wedding which is tradition here and it took my husband some time to get used to this. In his culture, it's the grooms family which pay. His mother sold her ring in order to give us about $500 as a gift and buy a dress for our wedding. All rather sad,really.
Well one part which is hard for him is how his father was very negative.
His sister got into law (from the father's understanding) through his handling ie. connecting with people in higher places as his father is in politics.
He showed his father that he could make it without him.He proved it.
He knows his father has had a very negative input throughout his life/his family. Causing much distress and pain. However he pulled through.
His mom is the one person who stood by him throughout.
We talked more today and he has resolved the issue with finances however it's taken some time. Even my parents involvement was hard at first for him. I'm not looking to have him at the top straight away. I mean, something has to give. One step at a time.
My husband went to his extra courses and discovered that the way he was applying his knowledge was incorrect. He has since done 2 mock exams and passed. Therefore, he had some confidence but is also suffering with much nerves,stress and worry. I try to relax him but sometimes saying nothing and simply being there to support him. He used to offload by going to prostitutes,smoking and drinking red bulls to de-stress. He hasn't engage in these activities since we met.
Re the future, we have sent in applications for Canada. I sent mine about 2 years ago and have since had word that I am eligible for permanent residency. My husband only sent in his application a few months ago therefore there is probably going to be somewhat of a delay.
As for how long his exams will last depends on how quickly he passes. I equally have postgrad exams but my strategy is different to hubby.
Red Bull was the least of his worries. His skin was yellow when I met him. He is now normal toned. He also had bloods doing and he was simply a little dehydrated from the tests. Drinking coffee so much would make sense.
We don't have a car at present therefore walking, running and taking in fresh air is a norm.
I don't quite understand what you mean about the intention settings. What is the reason for applying this to my /my husband's life?