Thank you very kindly for your response. I appreciate your kindness. However, I am not sure how to proceed.
After our first two emails, I did write the letter you recommended, minus the condolences because I had not spoken to the stockbroker. I received no acknowledgement of the more serious letter. Two years have passed.
This past weekend, I wrote a second time, and expressed myself more succintly because my perspective was more clear. I explained that my illness began before he wrote his letter giving me his address, and that I had remained ill since. I explained that doctors blame my grief for the illness. I asked him to give me relief by telling me what happened after we spoke the last time. So far, I have no response.
Now, I have the option of sending a handwritten, hard-copy letter, addressed to both of them, expressing condolences, or expressing condolences and repeating what I have already said by email, or....what? It is actually difficult to go to work these days. I dread Christmas. I keep thinking that he has not acknowledged the more serious letters because he believes it is not appropriate for me to share so much information when I am a stranger to his wife. He is an investment banker from Colorado who now lives in England, sits on the boards of several companies which he has founded, and number among his board members several of the British peerage. He was always the most compassionate and family-loving man I ever met.
Any further advice?