Hi! You know, to give you the best answer, I think I should ask you a few questions first that will help define the problem and the situation.
I can see how a "talk it out" approach would be frustrating here: he's a nice guy so talking can feel like you're being just demanding and a complainer. Of course, the problem is: how are you going to communicate what you want and ask why you're not getting it without talking?
So our first decision has to be: are you trying to decide yes or no on continuing with him on your own based on the information you now have? Or do you want more information?
If you are not interested in asking him, then I need to get a sense of how you see him: is this a "values" problem? Meaning, are you interested in a more intense, love oriented relationship? And he is interested in a more casual, friends with benefits relationship?
If so, are you willing to have this friends with benefits relationship or is it time to move on?
Any extra information that will help, feel free to share.
Yeah that is exactly how i feel
i want more of a love oriented relationship, not being friends with benefits
I am just not sure how to solve this. Obviously, talking will occur but I just don't know what to say