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Hi Cynthia. I am glad you reached out for support. I can completely understand how this experience would be disturbing to you. In an intimate moment with your partner, it is a vulnerable time and one in which you want to feel close emotionally, so I can understand you feeling shocked and confused about what happened. I don't know your boyfriend's background and his relationship to his daughter, so this is just a hypothesis as to what happened. There are basically two thoughts I have about this. One is, that your boyfriend was feeling really close and connected to you in that intimate moment and that he confused names because he also feels these things with his daughter, in an appropriate way, but his mind just mixed them up. This would make sense if he has a healthy, appropriate relationship with his daughter with boundaries, etc (ie. a healthy attachment). The other theory is that he may have some latent feelings of sexuality or even sensuality with his 6 year old and he unconsciously blurted this out.
This second hypothesis is not necessarily a bad sign, (ie. that he is normally attracted to young girls), but may be more of a sign of a common sort of "flirtation" that happens between young girls and their fathers. Young girls learn "how" to be sensual and flirtatious with their daddy's when they are in the oedipal stage (3-5 or 6) as they have fantasies about "marrying daddy" and such. This is perfectly normal and really how little girls learn about the opposite sex, as long as it is just a stage and Dad has appropriate boundaries with her (e.g. never crosses the line into touching or sexuality with her).
Basically, if something inappropriate was happening with his daughter, you would see signs of it in her behavior such as acting overly sexual during play or with friends or acting very aggressive. If you think their relationship is healthy, then I would chalk it up to a "freudian slip" in which his repressed sexual or sensual feelings just popped through for a second. If you are worried that he is molesting her or being otherwise inappropriate, then you really need to call CPS to protect her. I hope this makes some sense to you. I am sorry for the long response but it is a bit complicated. If you are happy with my answer, I always appreciate a positive rating. If you have more questions, please don't hesitate to follow up. Thank you for the opportunity to be of service. Take good care.
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