Thanks for your reply. I suppose you are telling me what I already know. So it doesnt look like there will be any possibility that he will change?
You have said what all my friends and family have told me. Because they are on my side, I hoped that they might be biased in my favour, and that if I listened to them, I wasnt actually giving him a fair chance to change. Why do you think he has given up his job and home, and moved away from his family to be with me, to a new home and new job. Do you think he thought he could continue in his online behaviour and have the best of both worlds - until I found out?
Trust what you friends and family have said.
The why's are not always clear that is why you have to focus on the reality of what you do know.......that he is a dishonest-philanderer. This is a character issue and you are the victim here..Again- behavior speaks louder than words.
You are trying to make sense out of something that doesn't make sense- thus you obsess on trying make this fit when it doesn't.
Kindest regards, Bill
Thank you. I do know that what you have said is right. i just have to find the guts to end it - not easy when i thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. Thanks again