That does sound strange what is going on especially if everything was fine before. Could be an error on facebook since it does show he is in a relationship in one part, but his actions do seem like something to be concerned about especially if this is not his normal behavior. I would stop the texting for now and call him like you are planning to. Communication is very important. You did good giving it time to see how things work out naturally while also not being overly aggressive. Your responses seemed perfect to me the way everything was handled. From here talk with him and see if something is going on. Try not to judge or insinuate when you talk with him. Rather as you had texted him as him if
everything is okay and if he is going through anything that he needs to talk about. Try and get him to open up rather you guessing his feelings since that can cause him to become defensive. Rather state
Your concerns and ask him if everything is okay and that you are worried about him. Go from there based on his responses.
This way you both will be on the same page. May not be a problem in your relationship it could even be something personal that he is going through that is causing him to withdraw.
Also, he rarely gets on Facebook. I was surprised that he made an effort to get on Facebook at 11 on Thurday night 6 hours after I left his house to change his status. The last part about what you said that something personal is making him withdraw, in mid October he had to go to a retreat and when he came back on monday, he was thinking about becoming a priest. I didnt know what to do other than to be there for him. After that weekend, he didnt really act like is usual self, like no more good morning text or saying I love you alot, but still showed affection towards me though.
Oh, I see That could have a lot to do with it since from what I know about certain priest they can not marry. If this is the type he is thinking of becoming he my have a huge amount on his mind. He may even be confused of what he really wants since his feelings for you may be strong. He may be battling with this inside of him. This conversation between the two of you will get you both on the same page. Even more so due to this try to be understanding and not upset during the talk since it does not seem to be about you personally or another person. Also, he will be more inclined to talk with you. On another note if it does have something to do with this retreat I would suggest you recommend to him to take time and think things over before rushing into something. Some retreats can get you into something for the wrong reasons, so if he takes time to decide and make sure he is making decisions for the right reasons that would avoid future issues within himself. I do hope it works out for you both either way.
Yeah it surprised me too because we are both Catholic but go to different churches. I got confirmed 3 years ago but he still has to. Though before he left for the retreat, he was interested in becoming a civil engineer. I dont think he really knows what he wants yet. He is just a junior in high school. I'm a senior though. Do you also think that after Facebook and not texting back for a few days means that he wants to break up...the hard way? Thats what I instantly thought yesterday.
He is still so very young and has time to decide. I would not take any drastic steps at this point. There is no way to really know what he wants or is trying to do. Seems like he probably doesn't know. This retreat seemed to have gotten him thinking and he may need time to organize his feelings. Talk with him that would be the best first step then go from there.
yeah I agree. Do you also think that after all the Facebook drama and not texting back for a few days means hes breaking up with me the hard way?
Its hard to say. It would not be a nice way if he is doing that. He could be afraid to tell you, but still would need to end up telling you anyway or it would leave you guessing. Don't know what his plan would be in regards XXXXX XXXXX I think its best to talk because then you will know if this was his way of breaking up or if there is something else going on as we spoke about. I know it may be scary to do, but it is only fair for you to know if indeed he was trying to break up, but could be far from the truth and maybe his issue. In that case it will rest your nerves as well.
Yeah for sure I want to know whats happened or what went wrong. Since he is not responding, he is scared to be honest cause it will hurt me, but it hurts even more not knowing the truth. I am still afraid though that if I call him tonight, he won't answer. I plan to leave a voicemail and hope he'll at least hear it. I was just going to say that we need to talk, like tonight, tomorrow or sometime soon. And whats worse is that I see him tomorrow in class. I just don't know how is going to act.
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Yeah for sure I want to know whats happened or what went wrong. Since he is not responding, he is scared to be honest cause it will hurt me, but it hurts even more not knowing the truth. I am still afraid though that if I call him tonight, he won't answer. I plan to leave a voicemail and hope he'll at least hear it. I was just going to say that we need to talk, like tonight, tomorrow or sometime soon. And whats worse is that I see him tomorrow in class. I just don't know how is going to act. What should I expect?
Ok. Thank you! This really helped a lot. Thanks!