Thank you. You have verified what I was already thinking. I will write things down before I talk to him. My kids are 21, 19, 17, 15 and SICK of the drinking. They are ready to live in a home without alcohol. We are not hopeful for change (alcoholics disappoint again and again) but at least if he is out of the home we can try to live a normal life that my children have deserved. I will work on the finance part. My dad and brother have already stated they can help me in a bind so that relieves financial stress for me since I cannot count on my husband being sober and doing the right thing. I am resourceful and will do whatever it takes (extra duties for pay at work, cutting out cable, etc) just to live without alcohol every night.
I am sorry that you have to go through this. You are right, expecting change is probably not a good idea but you are giving this a chance so you are doing the right thing. I'm glad you have support for you and the children. That is going to help a lot. Most of all, take care of you. This is very stressful, even if it brings relief from the drinking.