yeah i agree with everything.
She has said she isnt with her ex and it was a massive mistake. since i found out she slepy with him on that evening i also realised she text me after...what!!!
Its so hard because literally the day before she turned up with holiday brochures and it was fine. i do think he must have text, she got confused and did what she did.
I am avoiding bumping into her but this feeling is nasty.
so you think i should not even bother texting?
what we had was so good, i just hope if she texts il be strong enough to say no
think her parents may play a part, they hated the age gap
Its just hard to understand how someone can change so quickly really
It is hard when things change so quickly in a relationship. However, it seems that this is a sign of how volatile things are for her in her life right now. And add to that her behavior with contacting you after she slept with her ex and saying she is not in a relationship with him, which does not sound true. That is not a good foundation for a healthy relationship.
You may want to write down what you want to say to her next time she calls. That may make it easier to say goodbye. Or you can write her a text if you feel you cannot tell her verbally. That way, it makes it easier on you. But either way, this is not a good relationship for you. If this is how she is now, she is unlikely to change in the future.
May I help you any further?
Yes, rebound relationships are common and it could be that this was your rebound to the ending of your last relationship, especially since your last relationship was a long term one. If you feel that you may have issues with being alone/single, talking to a therapist can help so you feel better and are able to take care of yourself in relationships (i.e. you don't stay in a wrong relationship to avoid being alone).
It is hard to walk away but you don't want to end up miserable for the long term just to hold on to hope she will get better.
Lol! You're welcome. It sounds like you are in a good place with the situation.
My best to you,
Probably not. It will just reset the situation and put you back to where you don't want to be. You may want to try to find another way to address how you feel. Go out, be with friends, distract yourself. And maybe make a list of things you can do when you feel this way again. It can help you to stop thinking of contacting her each time you think of her. And by making a list, you have something to turn to next time the urge to contact her comes around.
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