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My wife runs a business we are both partners of. She has proven

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My wife runs a business we are both partners of. She has proven total incompetent in the role causing significant damage. I raised concerns 3 years before her failings became apparent where we almost were forced to close. I subsequently got involved and the business has been saved however she continues to make similar mistakes always ignoring my advice and suggestions. She has never accepted her mistakes or admits any failings on her part. We originally owned a home 120 miles from the business and due to my concerns rented a flat nearby so she could ensure the business run correctly - she failed. She wanted me to sell home and move near to business, reluctantly I did. I am now living in an area where i have no friends or family, all I own is in the business. I am 51 years of age. Please advise
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That is my real problem now calling it a day, where do i pick my life back up? We have this home here near to her family, we owe £160k mortgage, will be difficult to sell. We owe £500K for business. Have £80k savings. business should sell for £800k. she had debts when we met I owned a home and my retirement money all went into the purchase of the business, she has ruined my life and i have sacrificed everything for her is there anyway I could win most of a settlement or is it split down the middle irrespective of circumstances or should there be 2 separate settlements, one for divorce & one for business? I cannot earn any more.

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I have your email waiting for rating but you havnt ansewered my last point:


That is my real problem now calling it a day, where do i pick my life back up? We have this home here near to her family, we owe £160k mortgage, will be difficult to sell. We owe £500K for business. Have £80k savings. business should sell for £800k. she had debts when we met I owned a home and my retirement money all went into the purchase of the business, she has ruined my life and i have sacrificed everything for her is there anyway I could win most of a settlement or is it split down the middle irrespective of circumstances or should there be 2 separate settlements, one for divorce & one for business? I cannot earn any more.

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