Hello, am a Marriage and Family Therapist and have been working with couples where there has been an affair for 20 years; I am very sorry to hear that you are in the midst of such a difficult situation in your marriage. It will help me give you my best answer if I have a bit more information. How long have you and your wife been married? Have you had any other difficulties in your marriage? Have you had a healthy sex life through the years? I am in the US and not familiar with Relate; please describe your experience there. Thanks, Eleanor
Some answers you wanted following my last communication.Married?.....15 years. This was in my letter anyway!!Sexual reltionship with wife. Fairly good. But not frequent.Yes went to relate. Ther are ver good at asking questions. But don't help with answers and guidance!!