Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
I am sorry to hear of your pain and struggle around this.
unfortunately there is no shortcut to ending the painful feelings....the best way to heal from this is to allow yourself to mourn it and feel it all.
When there are kids involved it can make leaving much more difficult and if his wife is aware of what is going on then she may have let him know that she wants him to be with her and his kids and he might feel that he must play that out.
that does not mean he doesnt care about you now or in the past.....
letting yourself feel it all even thought it is so painful is the way to heal from the pain.
are you here with me?
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yes can you see what I wrote above?
sometimes there can be some technical issues in chat...I am hoping you can see my responses above.
I will switch out of chat since there seems to be some issues.
yes thank you....should i wait for him?
Am i just setting myself up for hurt by waiting to hear from him...even knowing that he may never contact me again?
I guess i just want your advise on if I should hold on to hopefully a future with him or maybe in these situations it is always a negative outcome....maybe he will never leave and just come up with excuses?
thank you....i just miss him ....he cut it off so quickly and abruptly...
Thank you again.....I'll try to consentrate on my own marriage and keep him out of my every day thoughts....i just didnt get any closure with him...