Hi, I understand your concern. I do believe that it is best not to worry and rather think positive. However, in your case I do not see this as you worrying. I see this as you planning ahead. There is nothing wrong with doing that and this is actually a good thing. If she is going to Australia for this job then she must really want it. She may want it that bad that she doesn't realize the consequences involved. She may mean don't worry until I get the job or she just may mean don't worry we can work it out. Only worry if there is something to worry about meaning if there are problems due to the move or long distance relationship. I am not sure which way she meant it, but I do believe in this case planning needs to be done. Your concerns are understandable. It doesn't seem like she is looking at how getting this job will change your relationship and situation
From here all you can do is support her for this job as you are and see what happens with the job position. If she does get it then the two of you will need to talk seriously about the next step. I understand how difficult of a move that would be since you surely don't want to leave your children. Right now just wait to see what happens with the job then go from there.
Please let me know if I can be of further help...
No problem it is my pleasure to help. Yes unfortunately that is the stage its at. I know its difficult, but try not to let it worry you too much, That will only cause stress and even health problems.
Yes, I understand. I don't think its so much the age difference, but I agree with you about the fact she has no children and is not as settled as you. This can make things not as stable since you do not know where the relationship can end up, so can be very frustrating and difficult to deal with especially since you do want the best for her.
I am glad I could be of help. I think you are on the right path and have good insight to everything. Just take it day by day one step at a time. I truly hope it ends up working out the best way possible for all of you.
If you ever need to talk again you can always request me in your question or even come back to this thread even after you rate me!
I wanted you to know that my girlfriend was offered the job in Australia including sponsorship. She will be moving in February so we only have two months together before she leaves. I have mixed feelings, I don't want her to go as I feel this will be the end of us, but I want her to fulfill her dream. I'm trying to keep positive and enjoy the last few moments we have together.
Do you have any words of wisdom for me or advice if you think a long-distance relationship (10,000 miles) can work ?