Hi there thanks for your answer...
Sorry for all the typos..was typing too fast : )
I am just worried I will come across as a controlling weirdo telling him this...it's not really watching porn, but it's like looking at girls in bikini's
on the internet....I am very concerned I will look very insecure.
It makes me wonder if I am being too sensitive..
Making a point to look at any other women besides you can be seen as him needing to go outside of the relationship to find sexual pleasure. Other than sexual interest, there is no reason for him to be looking at these women. Although it can be said that looking at women in bikinis is better than porn, both are for the same purpose- making an effort to go outside of the relationship and looking at other women. And it may be only a step that may lead to looking at women in other kinds of clothing or no clothing at all.
But the most important part of this is how it makes you feel. You may feel insecure already, but even if you did feel secure, you would still wonder why he needed to look at these women. Your relationship should be enough for him.
So how would you suggest I bring it up without sounding like a possesive jerk? We have only been going out about three weeks and don't want to seem crazy...We have seen each other about every other day for three weeks, and don't want to come across as possesive...
You may want to just let him know that while you feel he is free to do what he wants at this point in your relationship, the fact that he looks at these women does bother you. Then let it go at that. While you cannot control him, you can at least give him a heads up about how you feel so if your relationship develops to something deeper, you will be able to say you expressed concern about it already and it does need addressed before you go further.
Thanks, XXXXX XXXXX help a lot...
One last question though...
Are you sure I am not in the wrong having feelings like this?
I can't be the only one right?
No you are not the only one. Many women feel as you do. It is very common to have this issue in a relationship.