Yes, he has been controlling, he gets mad if things are not done his way. He was only violent the once, although I often felt he had the ability to be that way. He lost his temper and got very mad when we nearly missed our plane flight home form a holiday, then blamed me for not doing exactly what he had said to do, he was also often very critical of me
He has shown controlling behaviour, he gets very upset aand mad if things are not doen his way
That makes perfect sense, and deep down I knew all this. I went back to him after the last episode (one week later) and got him to agree to joint councilling but I ended up going alone, I do not believe he wants to change, or is even prepared to accept he has a problem. Also he agreed to never drink again after the wedding ( as he was drunk that night) He since went back on that too, and got angry about me controlling him
Thank you so much, you have put things back into perspective for me, He does always switch things around and put the blame on me. I was getting into a very low place, getting confused, and thinking that I must have been at fault somehow.
One final thing, I am 56 years old and have been through abuse therapy several years ago, hence I have an understanding for these things. Seems strange that I should fall into a relationship like this knowing what I know (the warning bells were going off) but I chose to ignore them!
Thank you once again