as I thought, so nothing more to do other than remain friends, if I can still handle it
Am i being hopeful in thinking that, even if the affair ended, he would come back to me. And if that happened, I would feel like 2nd best. Is there any point in speaking to him about it more?
Point taken, I guess I'm relating back to how it was when we were together the first time. That time was recaptured in the 2 weeks we spent together. by both of us (by his own admission). Do you think this situation is suiting him a bit too much, in as much as he has a good part of both of us? Can I make an ultimatum and still remain friends with him?
Is he afraid of further commitment with either of us?
Ok, not the answer I wanted but it was the answer I expected. Guess I just needed to hear it from somebody objective. Thanks for your time and help.