You said you never had a girl affect you in this way and this is a good thing because you know what you are looking for in a girl and that is her. This relationship sounds like it is progressing even though she has said that she is not ready. I do feel she will be ready to date you because I see little things like leaning on you, just being honest with you about how she feels. All these things are a good things for you and her. I can tell you really have feelings for this girl and it sounds like you clearly expressed how you feel about her too her. These are the proper steps to going forward in a relationship together. The one thing stopping her from fully committing is the trust issue. She has gone through a break up where the guy betrayed her trust. She will need that time for you to show her that she can trust again. Once trust is broken in a relationship or just even with a family member it leaves a lasting impression on you until you are able to find the people you can trust. She needs to know that she can trust people, but she needs to find the right ones. You being one of them, but you have to show her that you are there for her. He actions say that she cares about you and I feel that you both would be together if she wasn't going through this difficult time. But I feel that if you keep in contact go out together to places you will develop that connection you both need to go forward in this relationship. Don't wait, ask her to go out and even if it is just to talk. She needs someone right now.
The JustAnswer system is full of glitches these days. I have 3 in a row of your same post, so perhaps DearDebra didn't get anything, or something else happened. Here's my 2 cents worth: You're freaking out with embarrassment/awkward/doof!--aka feelin-foolish, because your heart's out on your sleeve and you don't know why she hasn't at least wiped her nose on it.
I've skimmed your conversation with DD, and I'm an expert on relationship histories. She's protecting herself when she says she's going to be single for a while. And she's strongly drawn to have her "healing relationship" with you. But if she does that as MORE than "friends" this soo, then she can only do it by semiconsciously being sure that you're more into her than she is into you (which you are, right now), so she won't get hurt if you turn out to be (somewhat) like all the rest of the guys--but then she'd also feel guilty for using your greater affection for her safety when she's just not ready to feel too much self-surrendering-love until she's felt more of the mourning and cleaning-up-afterwards feelings about her ex.
So step back for a minute and think about YOUR last long-lasting relationship. How long ago did it end? How much were you in love yourself? What did you learn from it? Perhaps you can email her about how you are pausing yourself to see if there's more you can learn from your own past, because you understand that she needs time to think about what happened and learn from that, and to feel her losses. You'd be inviting her to share her relationship lessons with you, which might help her get through her mourning process. And if you did some serious reflecting on your own past relationships, you might be less head-over-heels and more clear-sighted about yourself and her (cuz self-reflection about our own pluses and minuses in loving is something very few guys do). What you're seeing in her you might be doing yourself also: namely rushing into it, because it feels so great to be "in like" again, but then freaked out because you haven't attended to and treated your own bruises and they're throbbing like mad the moment something might be snarled up.
So maybe you actually know pretty close to exactly how she's feeling, Because You're Doing the Same Thing and feeling the same things: such as "This could be too good to be true!"
So if you really want to ring her bells, you could write her a little poem (whether in free verse or just regular prose) about the guy or girl who got to first base on a bunt and then stole second! But s/he's wondering "how many more chances can I take?" cuz that's a little like where you are in this inning.
You've got many more innings to go, since you've had years in the dugout already. But now, just hang tight in the on deck circle and keep winking at the pitcher. (That means: ENJOY YOUR ANTICIPATION and don't worry about blowing your chances, time is on your side.)
Did anybody ever tell you that "it's better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all?" It's true. I don't know of any statistics that would put numbers into the possibility of her healing turning into a relationship in which she wants to take the big risk of being hurt again. But you're saying "can I have reassurance that my chances are good of a shift into the real live mating dance? because I don't want to take the risk of being hurt again."
That's why I've invited you to examine your own relationship history to find out if you've ever completed the grieving&learning&letting-go process with your own last Great Love. I've invited you to search your own head and heart as a way to balaance out your desperation to make sure she doesn't get away. The odds could be around 50/50, but nobody's ever studied it.
What's the matter with learning more about love? Are you actually pretty young & inexperienced at love? How can you keep fropm getting too excited & scared too fast? Is there anything else in your life you can care about, like a work project? Are you an artist, musician or a poet?
She is scarred and scared. Scared to feel the sense of surrender to the waves of feelings when you love somebody. It's very human to be scared of being in love, because love is a force that leads to sacred union. You're scared too, though I haven't asked you about what happened the last time you let the waves of loving (with shyness, hurt, anger, fear, sorrow, worry, excitement, euphoria and all the rest of feeling that come