I need more clarification regarding this problem. As I stated I do not feel comfortable with the idea that my partner is going away for a weekend with his 22 year old daughter. As I said I am certain that they will share a hotel room as she will not afford separate accomodation. I do not feel that this is appropriate. I won't know if there are single beds or if they are sharing the same bed. I just dont think it is right. She is not a child but a grown woman.
THey are both affectionate towards each other. Once we were out and she was sitting next to him he was holding her hand. Or if he see's her he will put is arm around her. She will hug him when she see's him but its not just a hug its a long hug. It all makes me feel very uneasy. I dont know if its because i am a woman and his partner or what ?
Can you please tell me if this is normal behaviour from a father/daughter relationship or should i be concerned
I can assure you that they will be sharing a room as she is taking him away and she does not have the money to pay for two rooms. And yes knowing her the way I do and observing her with him I dont think either of think it is inappropriate to share a room or a bed for that matter. I was the one who asked the questions about the sleeping arrangements. He got upset and said he didnt know because "its a surprise" she hasnt told him anything about where they are going or where they are staying. I have to leave it up to her to have the good sense to get a room with two single beds.
And yes he has sat there and held her hand when we were out and I was sitting there next to him feeling very weird indeed. We were standing in line waiting at a restaurant and he was putting his arm around her and standing with her as if you would with your partner. I find it all very upsetting.
I dont know if something inappropriate is going on I have never been faced with this kind of situation before. That is why I am asking you !
And you are right I would not want to be with someone like that if that were the case. So what do you advise I do. How do I approach this subject with him and what do I say ?
I am at my witts end with this and am feeling quite sickened by the thought of it all.