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Hello, I am a Marriage and Family Therapist and have been working with couples, married or not, for 20 years. I am sorry you are in such turmoil over what you have done, but it actually tells me that you are a good and honest person. Many people would only feel anger at their boyfriend, not guilt about being untruthful as to how they got the information. Secrets are very harmful to relationships, and since this one is troubling you so, it will come out sooner or later. Your bf probably already suspects that you are not telling he truth. It would be better to sit down and tell him what happened at the time and place of your choosing, rather than have it revealed in an argument at a later time and in unexpected circumstances. What do you think?
I don't think I can do that. He will definitely leave if I tell him the truth.
We have been together 7 years, and we have a child together. Because I lied to him in the first place.
No. But it is the severity of the act itself. I twisted the lie so much that he will never forgive me.