Hi, I am ask counselor and here to help as much as I can. Before the affair, did you and your husband have any difficulties of any kind?
We didn't have sex at all, but it wasn't because I didn't want to he always turned me down other then no sexual relationship i felt we were a great couple.
It sounds as though your husband has a lot of apologizing to do to you, and should be willing to do anything now to keep you! Instead, he is giving you the cold shoulder in the bedroom, which is not right or respectful of your wishes.