My husband hates cats and I adore them. We have two and he has been tolerating them for 6 years because of me, but he tells me every chance he gets that he hates them and cannot stand their fur around the house. He was raised in a family that believed that no animal should live in the house, and that the fur is something terrible. I clean a lot, but still...there will be fur around, it is natural. I love my cats and it hurts me that he is saying that. I tell him, yet it does not help. He says he only keeps them for me and that he can hardly wait for them to die!!! He is also not letting my cats come snuggle with me in the bedroom, sothey are both neglected. How should I approach this situation? Thank you.
Thank you so much for your follow up. My husband used to let my cat sleep right next to me on my side, and now, the last couple of weeks, he says no cats in the bed, so as a result I have to chase away a cat that has been sleeping with me for ten years. She is getting very needy and depressed. We have a toddler so it is not like I just have time to put aside and cuddle with her. That bothers me. My husband also says that it is good they are getting old (11 and 7) so they will die soon, and that we would not have cats after that. My boy loves cats, as he sees me petting them and he pets them as well. I know my husband can be moody and one day may say "enough with cats" and the next he would be very tolerant, so with him I know that nothing it set in stone when it comes to cats. I keep thanking him for tolerating them for me and telling him how wonderful he is for allowing me to have them. Someone has to suffer, right? My cat of ten years, who is all of a sudden not allowed to sleep with me, or my husband with cats' hair, or me by not knowing how to juggle?Thanks you.
Wow! I never thought of that! Thank you very much! He is a person that likes to be the center of attention (not in a bad way, maybe sometimes), so this would make sense considering his personality that always wants to be recognized for everything he does. Thank you for a great service, and thank you for following up.